Last June, my online group of wives and mommies started this journey. We were voluntarily asked who wants to join because obviously most of the dares are not easy and that it takes commitment to finish the 40 days journey. I did participate and I did not tell my husband about it.
I joined not because we are having marital problems –it is mainly because I wanted to improve as a wife, to learn more, to be more supporting and most of to be more submissive to my dear husband. It’s not because I have a problem with my husband but it is more of me and my character.
The very first dare was the hardest. LOVE IS PATIENT-holding back your tongue. And admittedly up to this date I still lose my patience but praise God, the husband said I’ve improved a LOT.
I only mentioned the dare to him after we’re done with it na. He said he noticed the small changes in me, like I became more appreciative of him, more thoughtful and many other small changes that he’s thankful for. What I noticed is that we have less arguments now even in tough times, that is not the case before this journey because of my being impatient.
One of my favorite dare is having “rules of engagement” and whenever we have arguments now, we are both reminded of the rules we made. That works for us and it made our fights (if I can call it that) shorter.
I cannot say our marriage is perfect because it is far from that but we have improved and we hope to keep on improving and also I do hope we can become an inspiration too to our friends, relatives and church mates.
Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.